Pregnant man gives birth after one night 'Grindr hook-up' and becomes 'seahorse parent'

A pregnant man greeted a baby after becoming pregnant during the transition, saying that carrying the child helped him through the pandemic while the initial shock has given way to immense love

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A man who got pregnant one night after meeting Grindr gets used to the “seahorse parent” life after welcoming a baby girl.

Ash Patrick Schade, 28, had spent two years in the transition period before finding out he was pregnant in February 2020.

He was taking testosterone and estrogen blockers and thought that would prevent pregnancy.

But after learning the good news, he immediately discontinued treatments to carry and give birth to his daughter, Ronan Shiva, who is now one.

The father of one child had struggled with his gender identity for as long as he could remember, but looked forward to starting a family as the seahorse parent and claimed his pregnancy helped him through the pandemic.

The psychiatrist and graduate student from Huntington, West Virginia, USA, is now raising Ronan with husband Jordan, 28, who is a full-time stepfather who stays at home.

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Ash said, “I was taking testosterone gel and estrogen blockers at the time I got pregnant, and it had never occurred to me that I could get pregnant during this pregnancy because it is so rare.

“I had a tough time between 2019 and 2020 and struggled with my mental health due to a divorce.

“I ended up having Grindr dates and accidentally got pregnant.

“It was a big shock, but I fell in love with my belly and got through the pregnancy despite struggling with the dysphoria and the medical risks.

“Ronan is my everything, I love her more than myself.”

Ash and his husband Jordan, pictured shortly after giving birth to their daughter
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Ronan is one now
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Ash found the pregnancy difficult, often with a lack of knowledgeable medical staff who understood his situation.

He said, “Nobody wanted to take my case when I first found out I was pregnant.

“I was such a high risk case with a lot of potential that pregnancy would go awry.

“I struggled with pregnancy, especially the pandemic.

“But when I was assigned a doctor, he worked with me to understand how I was feeling and what I was going through.

“When I went into labor, the medical staff was already informed of my situation and was great until they were later exchanged for other employees.

“The sight of my hairy legs in the stirrups must have surprised one of them because they said to me, ‘Maybe you should rethink your gender identity.’

Ash feared his mental health could deteriorate when he discovered the pregnancy, but dropped out of treatment to help Ronan. to wear
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“It may sound absurd, but giving birth felt like one of the manliest things I’ve ever done.

“For me, growing up and seeing male role models, being a man was never about having the biggest penis – it was about what you do to help others, what you can achieve and achieve.

“Bringing life into the world as the seahorse parent was incredible.”

Despite the medical troubles of his pregnancy, Ash found solace in his husband’s support, the online LBGTQI + community.

He said, “I have felt like I have been in the wrong body for as long as I can remember.

“My parents didn’t know any better and thought that conversion therapy would cure me, that I was sick.

“I hid my breasts and identified myself as a boy at school and walked past Ash wearing dark gothic clothes to hide my looks.

“Until one day my mother, who doesn’t want to be named, sent me to school in a pink two-piece for picture day and my teacher loudly explained that I was actually a girl named Ashley.

Ash pictured during his top operation
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“I went from popular to nobody overnight when my then-girlfriend’s mom called my mom to ‘keep this gay child slander away from my daughter.’

“I had a really terrible childhood and am a suicide attempt survivor from the gender dysphoria and trauma I went through.”

Ash feared that his mental health could deteriorate when he discovered the pregnancy.

He added, “I was concerned about how good I would be as a parent and how others would see me.

“But during the whole thing I had the love of my husband Jordan, who supported me, he even cut Ronan’s cord, he was there every step of the way.

“I had all of my friends tracking my trip and checking in, as well as the support of the online gay and trans community and even the satanic temple of which I am a member.”

Ash looks forward to telling Ronan about how she was born while growing up.

He also enjoys educating the public when they approach him to ask if Ronan’s mother is in the picture.

He said, “I want to be honest and open with Ronan and tell her that trans men can sometimes have babies.

“I can explain to her that I am both her mother and her father.

“Often people stop us when we’re out and say that their mother has to look beautiful, or when I’m out with Jordan, they ask where we adopted her.

“So it’s usually quite an interesting conversation when I explain everything to you.

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