A law student says she was warned that she would end up in a wheelchair or that her spine could “collapse” because of her 34Y breasts.
Amber Roach crowdfunded the private surgery to reduce her breasts to 32D after being rejected by the NHS.
The 21-year-old New Look salesman, a petite 5-foot-3-inch salesman, had 1.6 kg of breast tissue removed in two and a half hours on Nov. 16.
Amber from Bushey, Hertfordshire, whose friend is an electrician, said, “I’m looking at myself from the side in the mirror now and my breasts actually fit in the mirror, not 10 meters across the room. It’s so different “
She continued, “I got a sports bra from my sister Robyn for Christmas and I ran for a minute. It was amazing not to get a black eye.
“One of the things I really want to do in 2021, when the pandemic is over, is backpacking – 100 percent I wouldn’t have been able to do that beforehand.” It was like wearing a backpack on my front! “
Amber opted to crowdfund with a goal of £ 5,000 to fund a breast reduction surgery instead of asking for gifts for her 21st birthday on September 22nd.
When she launched a GoFundMe page on September 6, 2020, she hit her jackpot within 14 days and even received £ 2,500 from a single donor who wants to remain anonymous.
After senior cosmetic surgeon Dr. Reza Alamouti had learned of her plight and waived his usual fee, the £ 5,000 she had raised was enough to carry out the procedure on November 16 at London’s Welbeck Hospital in Marylebone, central London. Ordinarily it would have cost her £ 10,000 as she needed a breast reduction, lift, and liposuction.
She said, “At the time I was thinking,” It’s my 21st, I don’t want gifts, all I want is money for the discount. This is the best gift I can have. “
For years, Bernsteins’ disproportionately large breasts, which despite their narrow back compared to their size 10 bottom half, made them a size 12 at the top, had hampered their lives.
They got too heavy and awkward to continue exercising, running a mile, or working out in the gym.
Even simple chores like loading the dishwasher became groundbreaking chores.
Constantly aware that they were attracting unwanted attention and making them awkward, they began to degrade their confidence and self-worth.
Now, in the top half eight, she said, “I used to be very angry and accuse my breasts of being unable to do certain things. You were like the central force behind all of my other issues.
“I found myself unattractive and now my breasts are gone, it’s such a weight off my shoulders – physically and mentally.”
Amber was only 14 years old when she first noticed that her DD breasts set her apart from her classmates at Queens’ School in Bushey.
They caught the boys’ attention which led other girls to refer to them as “flirting” which they found very annoying.
As a netball fan, she even remembered bandaging her chest before a match after her sports bra couldn’t take the strain.
She said, “I used to get the most ridiculous questions from classmates like,” Do you put tissue in your bra? “Or” are they real? “And” did you let them do it? “
“Which parent would give their 14 year old a boob job? As if I had an operation at that age!
“My best friend who was a boy asked why I would push my chest out like a peacock – but I didn’t do it on purpose, so I just stood.”
When her breasts were an even bigger 34G by the time she was in sixth grade, Amber got terribly confident.
“I just remember them looking ridiculous – cartoonish like Jessica Rabbit,” she said.
“The teachers would turn me away for inappropriate clothing if I only wore a turtleneck, but it would be tight.
“Other girls would wear the same thing and would not be informed. I just felt like everything I was wearing was more sexual than other students. “
Amber, who has been receiving physical therapy for back pain in her breasts since she was 14, said it had gotten so bad that she asked her GP to reduce the NHS.
But she was supposed to wait until she was 18 when she was rejected again, even though her breasts were a J-cup by then.
“I opened the NHS letter with no and just burst into tears,” she said. “My sister, who is 19, said she had never seen me cry like this before.”
When she went to the University of Leeds to study law in 2019, Amber said she felt more like her big breasts than her brain or personality.
She said, “It was as if large breasts were an invitation for both sexes to touch me too!”
She continued, “That’s why I’ve always seen them so negatively, because they attracted the wrong attention.
“I used to put my cell phone in my bra and always let people say,” Be careful not to lose it down there! “I would laugh along, but it really wasn’t funny.”
The nights outside were a minefield too – starting with hours on the internet looking for an outfit that would cover her split.
Then there were the numerous dangers of being in town.
She said, “I wouldn’t wear anything too revealing for an evening with the girls, but the men would still be complete predators.
“That would embarrass me because I didn’t want that attention.”
She continued, “I hit every man who touched me.
“When I was abroad with my best friend and her family in Spain, a strange old man once put his hand on my skirt and pretended to lose his wallet – and I hit him. It was terrible.”
Amber has also endured gruesome comments from other women.
She said, “When they were walking down the street it was 50/50 with men and women.
“Women stared and said,” Jesus Christ, look at those breasts. “You were clearly almost insane.”
Having such a large top half was also inconvenient.
She said, “I would sit at the table in the morning and have a coffee and get up and either my breasts would eat or they would knock something over.”
When Amber was unable to get up for a month six months ago due to back pain caused by the weight of her breasts, forcing her to take prescribed pain relievers like codeine, her third NHS referral was postponed for a reduction due to Covid-19 taking they finally take matters into their own hands.
“My physical therapist told me that in middle age I could end up in a wheelchair or have serious problems if I stop doing the Pilates exercises she taught me because my spine could collapse,” she said.
And in September, at the suggestion of her roommates, she launched her GoFundMe page.
A lot of donations from family and friends turned into a deluge when Bernstein’s story was discovered by the media and she hit her goal of £ 5,000 in two weeks – £ 2,500 from a single donor.
She said, “He told me he had a similar problem that needed an operation. It was the mental health aspect of my GoFundMe that appealed to him. He didn’t want mine to be as bad as his. “
And when plastic surgeon Dr. Alamouti of Harley Street, director of New You, who was offering his services for free, she finally saw a light at the end of the tunnel.
During the two and a half hour surgery, he removed 1.6 kg of breast tissue and moved Bernstein’s nipples 15 cm, leaving anchor-shaped scars on her chest that will fade – but not go away – over the next 18 months.
Pleased with the resulting symmetry of her breasts and the fact that both nipples had survived the operation with almost complete sensation, he thought the procedure was a success.
Afterward, Amber recalled, “I couldn’t sleep even though I was so shaken because I was so excited.
“The first time I went to the bathroom, I looked in the mirror and thought, ‘Oh my god, where did you go? “
“Right after the operation, my breasts were tight and looked smaller than they do now.”
She continued, “I thought well done. I felt like I achieved something.”
She was forced to wear a surgical bra for six weeks and could not do any heavy lifting for a month after the operation.
But Amber is now looking forward to getting affordable, pretty underwear and bikinis in Primark instead of shopping from more expensive, specialized websites.
She has also received great support from her boyfriend who wants to remain anonymous, but she looks great.
She said, “He’s so happy for me. He thinks I look more proportionate – he was obviously attracted to me before – but now he can see that I’m a lot happier and brighter and that it suits me. He knew I made the right decision.
“A lot of people have asked what my boyfriend thinks and said, ‘I bet he’s sad. “I had the discount – but he prefers me that way because he’s happy that I’m happy.”
Amber, who postponed the first semester of her sophomore year to surgery, is now more confident of achieving her goal of becoming a lawyer without her oversized breasts holding her back.
And she feels like she paved the way for other young women, who unfortunately live with very large breasts, to talk about their feelings and maybe find a way to love themselves without taking the drastic measures they take has seized.
She said, “I really had reached the end of the street. My breasts have made me unhappy and have affected my physical health. “
She continued, “I’m incredibly grateful to the people who made my surgery possible, but I’ve told many girls on social media that they don’t feel pressured to have a breast reduction.” If it doesn’t affect their health, then they should just learn to love them. “
Dr. Alamouti said he had seen an increase in the number of teenagers and younger women having breast reductions.
However, he does advise young women to speak to their GP first to see if they qualify for an NHS cut, see a physical therapist to make sure they have a properly fitting bra, and do a proper exam with the surgeons before they do decide to go private.
“I know how difficult and debilitating very large breasts can be,” he said.
“The problem is not just the physical problem, but also the psychological stress.
“This surgery can change the lives of people like Amber.”