Domestic abuse victim feared she would be killed by her abusive boyfriend

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Domestic abuse victim feared she would be killed by her abusive boyfriend

A domestic violence victim has described fear of being killed when her ex-boyfriend forced her to kneel in a row in a field.

Naomi Baxter, 22, was trapped in an abusive relationship for 18 months.

Connor MacDonald, 23, has physically assaulted Ms. Baxter several times – spat in her face, kicked her, and even hit her.

Since then, she has revealed the hideous text messages her ex sent telling her he would “love” to kill her and put her “six feet below her father,” who sadly passed away when she was just 12 years old old was.

Preston Crown Court heard Ms. Baxter and MacDonald rowing about unpaid rents via direct messages on Twitter on June 10 last year.

MacDonald threatened to stab Ms. Baxter’s family members and told them to meet him in a nearby field at 5pm or he would “smash her gaff to pieces”.

When she arrived to meet him, he ordered her to turn around and kneel on the floor.

But when she looked at him again, he had his hand on the back of his sweatpants where she thought the knife was.

As she ran from the field, he laughed and said to her, “You can go, but if you do, your whole family will die.”

Fortunately, two passers-by found her and called the police.

Ms. Baxter said she was too scared to confide in family and friends about MacDonald’s relentless abuse. She said his manipulation went so far that she would apologize for making her torture her.

He often threatened to murder her family members and when she tried to leave him he told her he would kill himself.

MacDonald, of Preston, Lancashire, was jailed for 12 months at Preston Crown Court on Friday, November 13th, after pleading guilty to assault and death threats.

Ms. Baxter is now encouraging other victims of domestic violence to speak out against their perpetrators. She said her experience and struggle would not be in vain if they were to help “one other person.”

Naomi, of Kirkham, Lancashire, said, “I find it so difficult to look back. I still struggle every day to come to terms with what I’ve been through.”

“Despite everything he did to me, I believed he was the best friend in the world. But he was a bad man.

“I was scared every day, but I also felt like I had to be with him, even if I was so scared of him.

“He told me I would never be believed – he had convinced me that everything was in my head. That I deserved it.”

Ms. Baxter, who works in debt management, met MacDonald in school when they were only 14 years old, but she didn’t start dating him until 18 months ago.

Of their relationship, she said, “Connor had abused me for months and kept me trapped in our” relationship “with emotional and physical abuse, and I hadn’t even noticed it.

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“I knew I was depressed, I knew I felt awful, and I knew the things he subjected me to weren’t particularly normal, but he made everything seem so natural and it was even part of our routine .

“He would threaten to murder my family because I wanted to leave him. This would extend from my mother to my nieces and nephews.

“He would threaten to kill himself if I ever told him I wanted to leave the relationship.

“He attacked me physically several times. This would range from spitting in my face, kicking, pushing, pulling on my hair to hitting.

“Every time this happened he said I deserved it and I knew where to go if I didn’t like it, but I couldn’t go. I had to apologize to him for making me do it has to do this to me. “

MacDonald was also caught on camera destroying her possessions and text messages show how he intimidated her into giving him money to buy drugs.

The couple lived together at their home between January and April 2019 before moving to their apartment between April and June.

She said: “Connor often destroyed my things or ravaged my bedroom. He treated me to clothes or shoes several times and later tore them open or burned them in front of me.

“I just wanted to love and be loved by Connor, but all he did was make me a victim of the most terrible emotional and physical abuse. He may not have broken any of my bones, but he certainly broke other parts of me.

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“It was liberating to break free from one’s chains, but it was a long and lonely road to heal myself.

“I was utterly traumatized by his actions and am in constant agony from the abuse he exposed me for so long.

“I am on the road to recovery and dropping all of the learned behavior. It’s a lot harder than words can put, but it’s a lot easier than going through it. “

After he was locked up, she said she felt she needed to find the courage to speak up, as many other people like her will be trapped – especially during the lockdown.

She said: “I want to say something now because if someone else feels trapped like me, if it helps one person, it means that my fight has not been in vain.”

“It was too late for me, but maybe other people can still get away from it.”

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